When reading the passage in John 4:1-42 about Jesus and the Samaritan woman for my recent assignment in Studying and Teaching the Bible at Moody Bible Institute it struck me what an evangelistic impact this Samaritan woman had on her entire community once she believed in Jesus!
I’ve read this passage many times before but never saw the correlation between this Samaritan woman in John Chapter 4 and Nicodemus in John Chapter 3. Nicodemus seeks Jesus out at night. He was a devout Jewish leader that knew the scriptures inside and out. He was well known and highly respected by all in his community. He adhered to the religious purity laws and was a teacher of them. He believed in Jesus, yet he left Jesus and did not share his belief. There is no mention of Nicodemus sharing his faith in Jesus with anyone! On the other hand we see Jesus in John chapter 4 seek out the woman at the well. She was a Samaritan, whom the Jews viewed as half-breeds and heretics. Not only that but she was an immoral woman in her town. Therefore she was rejected even by Samaritans in her community. However, when she believed Jesus to be the Messiah through her encounter with him at the well, she did not hide her faith in him but rather told her entire town and many believed because of her testimony!
In this bible passage we see that sometimes the unlikely can cause a greater ripple-effect for the Kingdom of God than the most
likely. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you’ve done, you can receive Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior and have a huge impact on your community, your family or wherever God leads you!
If you’re a brand new believer in Jesus Christ it is very important that you stay in the Word of God. Read it daily. Do not be ashamed to proclaim your faith to others (Luke 9:26). Surround yourself with other believers who will encourage you in your faith in Christ (Hebrews 10:25).
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The story of Abigail in the bible (1 Samuel 25:1-42) describes a woman who was very brave, courageous, and had excellent discernment, wisdom and leadership skills. She undermined her husband (instead of submitting to him) and therefore saved her entire family and people. She is not reprimanded by God, but instead she is blessed. I do believe that wives should submit to their husbands and husbands should love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for it. This is actual mutual submission. Wives should respect their husbands and husbands should love their wives is what the Bible teaches us. God never intended for women to submit to an abusive husband and remain in an unhealthy relationship. Women need to take action and protect themselves as well as their children. Read with me the beginning of this story in 1 Samuel 25:1-3:
1 Samuel 25:1-3: There was a man in Maon, whose property was in Carmel. The man was very rich; he had three thousand sheep and a thousand goats. He was shearing his sheep in Carmel. Now the name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife Abigail. The woman was clever and beautiful, but the man was surly and mean; he was a Calebite.
We learn that Abigail’s husband, Nabal, is very mean, surly, a fool, and quite rich. Abigail is beautiful and clever.
1 Samuel 25:4-8: David heard in the wilderness that Nabal was shearing his sheep. So David sent ten young men; and David said to the young men, 'Go up to Carmel, and go to Nabal, and greet him in my name. Thus you shall salute him: 'Peace be to you, and peace be to your house, and peace be to all that you have. I hear that you have shearers; now your shepherds have been with us, and we did them no harm, and they missed nothing, all the time they were in Carmel. Ask your young men, and they will tell you. Therefore let my young men find favor in your sight; for we have come on a feast day. Please give whatever you have at hand to your servants and to your son David.'
David is requiring Nabal’s hospitality.
1 Samuel 25:-9-11: When David's young men came, they said all this to Nabal in the name of David; and then they waited. But Nabal answered David's servants, 'Who is David? Who is the son of Jesse? There are many servants today who are breaking away from their masters. Shall I take my bread and my water and the meat that I have butchered for my shearers, and give it to men who come from I do not know where?'
Nabal is foolish and refuses to show David and his men hospitality even though David showed Nabal hospitality. David’s men return to David with Nabal’s answer. David and his men set out to war against Nabal.
1 Samuel 25:14-17: But one of the young men told Abigail, Nabal's wife, 'David sent messengers out of the wilderness to salute our master; and he shouted insults at them. Yet the men were very good to us, and we suffered no harm, and we never missed anything when we were in the fields, as long as we were with them; they were a wall to us both by night and by day, all the while we were with them keeping the sheep. Now therefore know this and consider what you should do; for evil has been decided against our master and against all his house; he is so ill-natured that no one can speak to him.'
Nabal, as the servant claims, is so ill-natured that no one can speak to him. We know the bible states that ‘wives are to submit to your husbands’, however we do not see that in this passage about Abigail and her husband, Nabal.
1 Samuel 25:18-19: Then Abigail hurried and took two hundred loaves, two skins of wine, five sheep ready dressed, five measures of parched grain, one hundred clusters of raisins, and two hundred cakes of figs. She loaded them on donkeys and said to her young men, 'Go on ahead of me; I am coming after you.' But she did not tell her husband Nabal.
It appears that Abigail goes behind her husband’s back and undermines his authority to save her entire household from David and his army’s wrath.
1 Samuel 25:20-22: As she rode on the donkey and came down under cover of the mountain, David and his men came down toward her; and she met them. Now David had said, 'Surely it was in vain that I protected all that this fellow has in the wilderness, so that nothing was missed of all that belonged to him; but he has returned me evil for good. God do so to David and more also, if by morning I leave so much as one male of all who belong to him.'
Abigail is on her way to meet David and his army! This is one very brave woman. She knows that if she doesn’t act quickly that everyone in their household will be killed. She clearly does not ‘submit’ to her foolish husband, Nabal, but courageously initiates a plan to save her people.
1 Samuel 25:-23-26 When Abigail saw David, she hurried and alighted from the donkey, and fell before David on her face, bowing to the ground. She fell at his feet and said, 'Upon me alone, my lord, be the guilt; please let your servant speak in your ears, and hear the words of your servant. My lord, do not take seriously this ill-natured fellow, Nabal; for as his name is, so is he; Nabal is his name, and folly is with him; but I, your servant, did not see the young men of my lord, whom you sent.'
Here we see Abigail humbly approach David and apologizes for her husband’s actions and even publicly criticizes him for his actions, clearly not submission towards her husband. She claims to David that ‘I did not see the young men of my lord, whom you sent.” It’s as though she is claiming to have the ability to even be in charge, otherwise why would she make this claim, if she did not even have the authority to act as she did?
1 Samuel 25:26: 'Now then, my lord, as the Lord lives, and as you yourself live, since the Lord has restrained you from bloodguilt and from taking vengeance with your own hand, now let your enemies and those who seek to do evil to my lord be like Nabal.'" David will face allegations of bloodguilt several times in his life. Abigail has reminded him, in a very nice way, that if he followed through in his intent he not, Nabal, would be the guilty party. David does not have a right under the law to retaliate in this way. If he does, he will be guilty before God.
1 Samuel 25:27-30: 'And now let this present that your servant has brought to my lord be given to the young men who follow my lord. Please forgive the trespass of your servant; for the Lord will certainly make my lord a sure house, because my lord is fighting the battles of the Lord; and evil shall not be found in you so long as you live. If anyone should rise up to pursue you and to seek your life, the life of my lord shall be bound in the bundle of the living under the care of the Lord your God; but the lives of your enemies he shall sling out as from the hollow of a sling. When the Lord has done to my lord according to all the good that he has spoken concerning you, and has appointed you prince over Israel, my lord shall have no cause of grief, or pangs of conscience, for having shed blood without cause or for having saved himself. And when the Lord has dealt well with my lord, then remember your servant.'
Abigail had wisdom. She never defended her foolish husband. She even warned David of the consequences of his action if he killed Nabal and his people. She encouraged David to do what was right in the sight of God.
1 Samuel 25:32-35: David said to Abigail, 'Blessed be the Lord, the God of Israel, who sent you to meet me today! Blessed be your good sense, and blessed be you, who have kept me today from bloodguilt and from avenging myself by my own hand! For as surely as the Lord the God of Israel lives, who has restrained me from hurting you, unless you had hurried and come to meet me, truly by morning there would not have been left to Nabal so much as one male.' Then David received from her hand what she had brought him; he said to her, 'Go up to your house in peace; see, I have heeded your voice, and I have granted your petition.'
Interestingly, David did not reprimand Abigail for not submitting to her husband, publically offending him or acting on her own authority. David actually applauded Abigail for spiritual wisdom and knowledge by preventing him from sin. David also stated that she had saved every man in her extended household. David even heeds the advice of a woman!
1 Samuel 25:36: Abigail came to Nabal; he was holding a feast in his house, like the feast of a king. Nabal's heart was merry within him, for he was very drunk; so she told him nothing at all until the morning light.
1 Samuel 25:37-38: In the morning, when the wine had gone out of Nabal, his wife told him these things, and his heart died within him; he became like a stone. About ten days later the Lord struck Nabal, and he died.
God actually punishes Nabal, not Abigail for undermining her husband’s authority.
1 Samuel 25:39 When David heard that Nabal was dead, he said, 'Blessed be the Lord who has judged the case of Nabal's insult to me, and has kept back his servant from evil; the Lord has returned the evildoing of Nabal upon his own head.'
Many legalistic religious teachings are that Nabal was punished by God for his mistreatment of Abigail, so women can always trust that God will punish their husbands if the husband mistreats them, implying that a woman should just ‘wait on the Lord’ for God to correct and chastise the husband. This is definitely taught within the Bill Gothard cult in which I grew up in. It is true that God is a God of justice, but women should never stay in an abusive relationship, especially when they have children. We must never wait for someone to change before we take action! Interestingly David says that God punished Nabal because of the insult that he gave to David, not Abigail.
1 Samuel 25:39-42: Then David sent and wooed Abigail, to make her his wife. When David's servants came to Abigail at Carmel, they said to her, 'David has sent us to you to take you to him as his wife.' She rose and bowed down, with her face to the ground, and said, 'Your servant is a slave to wash the feet of the servants of my lord.' Abigail got up hurriedly and rode away on a donkey; her five maids attended her. She went after the messengers of David and became his wife. David also married Ahinoam of Jezreel; both of them became his wives.
So what does God do to Abigail for not submitting to her husband, disrespecting him, and undermining his authority? God allows her to become the wife of the future King of Israel. The point I’d like to stress about this story is that women do have CHOICES and a VOICE, which is what this organization is all about! I believe that wives are to submit to their husbands as the Bible teaches us, EXCEPT in cases of abuse. Therefore, in certain situations God actually calls women to act, not wait on the Lord, but to wisely act to save herself, her family and most importantly her children. If you are in an abusive destructive relationship, precious sisters in the Lord, you must have the courage and discernment that Abigail had and get yourself, as well as your children to safety. God desires for you to experience a joyful abundant life in Christ, not a life of fear and intimidation.